Is Sex Love?

Does having sex really mean you love someone? Sex is a physical act, but is it an emotional act? The debate rages on, most men would tell you that yes having sex is showing that you love someone. Most women would argue in the opposite direction.

As a woman I tent to sway on the fermale side of that argument and I will tell you why.

Sex is a physical act. Plain and simple. There is no emotion to having sex. It is an act of pure selfishness and self pleasure.

Ask yourself this question. When you want to have sex...why is that you want to have it? Is it because you want to fulfill yourself emotionally? Or is it because you want to fulfill yourself physically?

Most people both male and female would say because they want to satisfy the physical need.

Some men would argue that God said to them to procreate and that's a built in genetic. The driving need to procreate, which in turn means having sex. Some men are taught to believe that having sex means you love someone. That refusing to have sex with someone means you do not love them.

When a woman has sex and "if" she has the big "O" she will be satisfied and be able to sleep afterwords. Most women don't have the big "O" as often as they need to for the self pleasure release that it gives when it throws out those hormones that tell the brain 'okay I feel better I'm done". Most women will only have 1 out of every 10 times.


Men on the other hand will keep going until they have the "O" then stop and maybe clean up. (I would hope that he would and help her to as well) Once they have reached their "O" most men are done for about 4 to 8 hours. Depending on their age, weight, and health.

Once the male has reached his "O" has she? Most women haven't, and will stay unsatisfied.  So the need for sex diminishes after a while, while more important issues take center stage in her life.

Now lets throw in the age factor. Most men as the get into their late 30's mid 40's go into a midlife "crisis". While women on the other hand start in the early 30's and stop at the early 40's.

By the time most women are into their 40's the nesting and nurturing side of them kicks into high gear. The need to make the home the place to be. They want to settle down and start relaxing. The need to find time for themselves. To be able to relax and pamper themselves as well as their families. The need for sex diminishes.

Men on the other hand have a raging sex drive almost similar to what they experienced in their teens. They feel the need to be more physical more often.

Now lets throw in medical issues. Men who have a medical condition will not feel this urge as strongly as a man with no medical condition. He will feel it and will do his best to satisfy that urge but if pain interferes he will stop all attempts until he feels a little bit better. Then go about satisfying that urge full steam ahead.

Now lets turn those tables and look at the female side of that same issue. When a woman is in any type of pain she will turn down any and all advances until she feels completely healed. No matter how long it takes.

Some women once they hit menopause "if" they start hormonal treatments they may begin to feel the urge to have sex again. Thereby making their husbands very happy.

I don't see how men can say sex is love. Love is an emotion that you feel. It's a strong emotional tug on your heart that makes you feel warm, makes your heart beat faster, makes you feel like "yeah this feels right" or "this feels like home".

So tell me friends....what's your decision on this? Leave me a comment and let me know.

Nightmares, Rain, Brunch, & Nurses Oh My!

Woke up late this morning. Ray let me sleep til almost 10. We both had a rough night, seemed the entire house was plagued with nightmares last night. Ray had one, I had two, and our son had one. No I am not superstitious...but it was rather weird.

I think it rained last night, my son also mentioned it so I guess it did. Albeit probably not enough to make a difference in the way I feel today. Weather tends to make my pain either better or worse.

I have a follower! Yay! Thank you Ms. Smith! I'm glad to see someone is following me, now I sort of know someone is at least listening to me.  lol That kind of sounded self centered didn't it. I hope I don't bore everyone away.

Still waiting on a call back from the Urologist and the Gasteroenterologist. My husband would tell me to keep calling them back. They tend to get angry at you for doing that and refuse to book an appointment for you until a month later. Or if they do book a sooner appointment for you , the nurses treat you like crap because you kept calling them and causing them to stop doing what they were doing to keep answering your phone calls. So if you cannot help it, don't keep bugging the nurses. They have enough to do without having to keep stopping helping their patients because you keep calling them every 5 minutes.

Speaking of nurses...I had a wonderful one at Eclipse Medical Imaging the last two times I was there. She was very patient with me and helped me get through a very rough exam. I wish I had gotten her name. I'd like to send her flowers to say thank you.

Ray and I went to our favorite little spot for breakfast this morning. Is it breakfast or brunch if it's at 11 AM? Any way. I went a bit overboard, but since the IVP I have been hungry for big meals. I guess a liquid diet for a day and half will do that. I had 2 eggs (over easy of course, what better way to eat them with toast), 2 pieces of toast, 2 pancakes (I only ate 1 brought the other home)1 sausage patty, and 2 pieces of bacon...was wonderful! Oh the name of the place? Shorty's Diner in Irving, Texas.

Shorty's Diner

If you go there tell Fresca I sent you. You'll know her by her quirky sense of humor, her wonderful laugh, and her outgoing manner. Don't forget to tell her I said Hello!

Ray ordered me new medical canes yesterday, I will need a bunch of his assistance to learn how to use them. They are kind of like a forearm crutch but the arm part lowers and raises. Once they arrive I will take pictures of them, and have Ray take a picture of me using them.

Well folks it's time for me to get in gear and try to get some chores done before my son comes home from school.

See you next time for more coffee and conversation. :)